10 Habits that are More Harmful than You Think
By Guest Blogger Heather Matthews
All of us are guilty of quite a few bad habits here and there. As we get older, we vow to break some of them, but sometimes we find it difficult to do so or we have a change of heart and keep them instead.
We get comfortable having these habits in our lives, not knowing how much better it would be to rid ourselves of these burdens and start living life more fully!
Here’s a rundown of the things I strongly suggest we do away within our lives:
#1. Being late
You should realize the implications of lateness. It’s rude, selfish, and disrespectful. When you were younger, it was excusable, especially when you were dependent on other people for rides, for lunches, etc.
But as you got older, you were given the responsibility of managing your own time. If you fail in punctuality, it’s probably of your own doing. Show people that you are responsible and mindful of other’s time as well.
#2. Apologizing for successes
You should never have to feel sorry for the great things that are happening for you.
There will always be people stabbing you in the back or saying things about you because they feel you don’t deserve it, but don’t feel compelled to apologize.
Remember, you worked hard to get to where you are, and if they aren’t as lucky to get the same opportunities, it’s not your fault.
#3. Staying in bad relationships
I’m not just talking about romantic relationships here. All of your relationships have a tendency to get abusive–your friends, family, professional connections.
If there are people in your life that only make it hard for you to move forward, you need to let them go.
Emotional vampires will not stop sucking the life out of you. Stop waiting for them to change, to walk out on you, or to realize their wrongdoings. Be in charge of doing those for yourself.
#4. Living beyond your means
So many people are in debt because they keep living a life they can’t afford and don’t deserve. They keep living it in terms of expectations, and not reality.
There’s no shame in living modestly. If you tailor your lifestyle well, you won’t ever feel like you’re living small.
#5. Not saving
In line with the previous habit, while you’re living within your means, make sure you are also saving some for those rainy days.
Saving can be tough, but in every income bracket, that’s the situation.
As your income grows, so does your expense. You need to learn to work with it and figure out how to set aside some money.
#6. Obsessing over your love life
Yes, it’s good to have a partner, someone to share your life with and all that. But don’t make it your life’s mission to search for The One. The more desperation you exude, the more that it will elude.
Take it easy and find meaning in your life on your own. Find your value as a person without a significant other.
Find satisfaction in your career, build up your confidence, find happiness in other relationships that exist in your life.
#7. Giving up
Everyone has their own challenges to get over, their own set of heartbreaks, their fair share of disappointments, that’s why those things don’t matter. They are there to prove you have the ability to rise above them.
Don’t let yourself be defeated by life’s constants.
#8. Living vicariously through others
Social media is the culprit here. We are privy to other people’s curated lives and we keep scrolling down thinking that’s the kind of life we want for ourselves.
The truth is, 1) their life is probably not all they project it to be, and 2) who says you can’t have that?
Don’t be content in letting others dictate the life you want without trying to reach for that life yourself.
#9. Never exercising
You need to push yourself to at least do some form of exercise. Health is not a joke.
You need to learn how to take good care of yourself because without your health, you won’t be able to do any of the stuff you want to do in your life.
Don’t take your body for granted. Move while you still can.
#10. Waiting for that ‘one day’
Today is that day. Stop putting a part of yourself or a part of your life on hold for that mythical one day when everything will fall together.
That time is now, and the person to do that is you.
You need to cherish every moment and live it the way you want. There are no use saving bucket lists, wish lists, and whatever list you may have for a day in the future that may or may not come.