Goal Setting Can Be Uncomfortable, And It Should Be
By Guest Blogger Heather Matthews
You may know that you should do some form of goal setting if you want to get ahead in life.
And goal-setting might be introduced to you as a fun way of listing what you want to achieve, by when, and how much, etc.
You may also have heard of SMART goals, which is kind of cliché and overused…
I’m not here to say that these are not correct. These are all true…
Goal setting can be fun…
…and it should be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-bound.
But what I’m going to tell you today is that goal setting should be uncomfortable.
If you’re trying to do something you’ve never done before, your mind will talk you out of it. Especially if you’re used to being comfortable. And you’re not used to changing.
Your mind has a job of getting you safe and away from danger. It does that excellently. But sometimes…
…because of this ‘keep-me-safe’ mechanism that has been excessively programmed into our heads…
…we fail to act on things that would be meaningful to us.
We need that raise, but we don’t want to be rejected, so we won’t ask.
We need some extra income on the side, but we’re not used to learning, so we won’t try.
Yes, you’ll be alive. Yes, you’ll be comfortable. But no, you won’t achieve anything. Or worse, you might get poorer and poorer if you stay that way.
And because of that, here’s what I’m going to ask you:
Write scary goals.
Do your usual goal-setting now, the way you’re used to it…
If your mind is not trying to talk you out of your goals…
…saying ‘no you can’t do that,’ or ‘no, that’s too hard’, or ‘no, you don’t have enough money’…
…then you’re not writing goals big enough to be scary.
Is that okay? Yes, it’s okay because at least you’re fulfilled by checking off those little items on your list.
But will this make you rich? I don’t think so.
Between your dream life and where you are right now are walls of doubt that you should breakthrough.
And your doubts and fears might sound rational…
…but they’re not helpful.
To achieve a goal that you haven’t achieved before…
…and this is a simple concept…
…you should do something you’ve never done before.
And to go there, you should be uncomfortable. Face your fears.
As your mind is talking you out of your big and scary goals, try to reason out with it too.
“Yes, this is a big goal, but how can I chip it away little by little?”
“Yes, I don’t currently know how to sell products online, I don’t even know how to build a website, but how can I learn?”
Don’t instinctively run away from your fears. Face them for what they are, fears. Fears aren’t facts.
Also, writing a big scary goal will motivate your mind more to act. Your mind craves challenges. And while people have different ranges of challenge that they can do…
You know you’re in that ‘scary-but-doable’ zone the moment you feel scared.
That’s where growth is. Set the bar higher than that for starters and you might not take action at all.
So start there, and you’ll raise the bar as you progress on your journey. Soon you’ll take on bigger challenges on your field. You’ll achieve goals that you didn’t even know possible.
This is where Rachel started her side job. She worked as a typist because she needed that extra money to fund for her daughter.
She didn’t know where to begin!
I told her that she should find some easy online jobs. The thought of going online and searching for jobs scared her. She didn’t even know how to use a computer this way.
Next, she’ll need to submit an application form. And then take a typing test, and then schedule an online interview via Skype.
She froze as she learned that she had to go through this. But I told her that she should chip it away little by little. Everything can be learned. And take baby steps.
Sooner than later she’s hired as a typist, earning a decent amount, just the extra funds she needed.
If you know how to make your fears work for you, not against you, then you’ll have more chances of doing something great.
Stop being mediocre and get uncomfortable.