The Pain Behind Not Changing
By Guest Blogger Heather Mathews
Change is part and parcel of our life. The world is in constant flux and silently proclaims to us that change is unavoidable in our lives too. The nature around us changes from season to season.
It wears different scenes and colors under different climates and weathers. Whether it is flora or fauna, beings grow over time and metamorphosis is an indication and symbol of change.
Unwillingness to change
Whether it is the question of augmenting our knowledge, skills, career, relationships, attitude, strategies, personal or social life, change is a must to evolve, mature and grow. Change makes it possible to accomplish better things and march towards success.
While we all know that change is inevitable for development and growth, often we are reluctant and unwilling to change. We have got used to a particular state of life and are afraid to change.
This attitude comes as the biggest threat to growth and success. We discuss here the pain behind not changing and the reasons to change. During this discussion, we also list some expert tips to benefit from a change.
Not changing can be painful
Not changing can be highly unpleasant and can have a lot of repercussions on all domains of our life – personal, social and professional. When we are reluctant or feel unable to change, our life, energies, and accomplishments get stagnant. Here are the negative consequences of not changing.
Not willing to change can negatively work on your confidence levels. You feel incapacitated and weak. When you are not willing to take risks, you are becoming reluctant to come out of your comfort zone.
This can adversely affect your attitude and performance in every domain of your life.
Thwarts development and progress
As discussed, change is necessary for development and improvement. In the absence of change, you will find everything around you remains stagnant, outdated, uninteresting and unproductive. Not changing adversely prevents your growth and achievement.
Unwillingness to change will also mean depriving yourself of the opportunity to learn and equip yourself with the developments around you.
This state of mind can leave you lagging in your domain knowledge which can have a negative impact on your career advancement. Living with a false notion of contentment will leave you in an inescapable maze of ignorance.
Makes life monotonous and boring
Where there is no change, things can get tedious and boring. No human on the earth can work like a machine with the life that is becoming dull day by day. A life that is boring and uninteresting can neither engage you positively nor contribute to your productivity.
Deprives you of some great opportunities
Changing is necessary to grab some opportunities that come in your way wither it is the question of personal, social or professional life. When you have not changed for better, someone else that has adapted to change will snatch the opportunity that comes in your way leaving you deprived of some great chances in life.
Keeps you out of the race around you
You can never compete with the world around you effectively when you are unwilling to change. Not changing means being left out from the competition around you and not running the race as effectively as you should be doing.
Hence you will start feeling left out, sidelined and uncared eventually entering a melancholic state of unsuccessful existence.
Tips to benefit from change
The negative consequences of ‘not changing’ on our lives will tell us the importance of change. This awareness must now translate into exploring the benefits of change and how to change for the better. Here are some expert tips on bringing a positive change in our lives and benefitting from change.
Learn to change
Change is a voluntary process. While some changes with us do happen unknowingly without our voluntary participation, the kind of change we are talking about in life needs learning. To be able to change, one must continuously update their knowledge. Without learning, it is not possible to move with the change.
Whether it is the question of changing your attitude, skills, understanding, relationships or strategies, you must first equip yourself with the right tools and practices in the first place. The right kind of strategy and implements can simplify working and produce better results within a short time.
While working with change in you and around you, you must always stay abreast of the developments. This can ensure you are up-to-date and going along with the wind. Being curious to learn things is an essential quality while working with change.
Adapt to the change
Just be prepared to change and working with the change alone cannot make you successful. For the change to be effective in giving you the desired results, you must first adapt to the changes you have accepted in your life. Changes can be often scary and can make things look unfamiliar and unworkable.
It is, therefore, necessary to find ways to adapt to the change and gain familiarity with what has changed with you. Your willingness to love the change and the newness that has come about you will move you forward successfully.
Move with the wind
Swimming against the current is often imprudent. When you swim in the direction of the currents, the energies of the currents supplement those of yours, and hence you can move faster with the least struggles. Be with the wind and see what works under the circumstances around you.
Rather than criticizing situations, people and state of things around you, it would help if you started exploring the ways to become more successful by following the trends and developments.
Creativity is an essential quality to succeed. Creativity helps distinguish yourself from the others in your domain. Creativity makes your life and career more exciting and enhances productivity. It helps your accomplishments stand out uniquely with a distinctive identity. By unleashing the power of your creativity, you stand to promote your work, brand or ideas better than others.
Give your best
Never sit back before you are exhausted. Often it is said, “Change of work is rest.” Spice up your life with variety and exciting things. Enjoy your life and give your best performance, efforts, and improvement. When you are better prepared to provide the best in you, you will see things happening faster than usual.
Accept the change around you
While you are implementing the changes necessary in your life, it is also essential that you accept the change around you. Every being on the earth is struggling for its survival. Hence you must be sensitive to the needs of others too. Help others to go with the change that can benefit them. This good gesture can help you learn and develop too.
Success comes with change
When you have cultivated the preparedness to change and started implementing the positive changes in your life, your life will turn positive, engaging, productive and successful.
You will see your level of happiness, satisfaction and fulfillment also grow with the changes you have brought in your life. Such a change can not only contribute to your success, but it can also inspire others as actions speak louder than words.